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The Rebuilding Programs has changed more than 100,000 lives. Now, it's your turn.
The Fisher Rebuilding Seminar was first created in the 1980s by Dr. Bruce Fisher. As he worked privately with people he realized that modern therapeutic methods weren't sufficient. So he began studying the issues to understand what people needed and what information and strategies actually worked.
He eventually simplified the issues in 19 steps for people to work through. Then, he organized them into a logical flow that anyone can follow.
Who We Help
There's no limit to circumstances and obstacles that arise in life, and there's very little that we can't help within regards to the emotional wounds of divorce. It has been said that divorce is the second most difficult situation in life. Dealing with it takes the right combination of support, information and guidance.
At the end of the day, heartbreak is heartbreak. It leaves no one untouched. Whether you are early in the process or divorced for 20 years the wounds need to healed. Nevertheless there are unique circumstances depending on where you are in the process.
Considering Divorce
When you don't know what is going to happen it can leave you in "no-man's land". What we know is that if you do nothing, nothing will change. So, if you want to reconcile then you need to focus on you first. We do that by giving proven tools that will help you understand yourself and your partner better. We also give you a way to take the emotion out of the equation so that you can peacefully and thoughtfully make the right decision and move forward with confidence.
Divorcing/Separated
Divorce has been referred to as having a bomb go off in your personal life. Everything is affected. Being with others that are going the same process gives you a network of friends that you can actually talk to. Plus you will get the tools and guidance to release the pain gracefully so that you can turn the page. People in the divorce process often feel very alone and our community of support gives you an instant support network that you can lean on.
Divorced
Once the papers are signed there is no option other than to move forward. Sometimes the wounds are more obvious to people that have been divorced for months, if not years, to see that the wounds don't heal until they are dealt with. Divorcees often report that they are stuck in the 5 Obstacles to Letting Go.
In fact, a recent study showed that typically people feel WORSE 10 months after their divorce than 2 months after their divorce.
Men and Women
and anyone in between
Often people want to be with their "own". They want to feel comfortable sharing and dealing with their healing with others that will understand. It's natural to find a tribe where you feel safe.
In our programs we believe that if we divide people into groups they miss out on perspective. They don't get to hear from the "other side". They reinforce their self limiting beliefs.
So, we encourage groups to unite, rather than divide. Often the right people show up in your class and they are exactly what you need, regardless of how they identify.
Sexual Orientation
Heartbreak affects everyone. If you are human you have thoughts and feelings. You have an identity. You have relationships. These things don't change based on who you are with. We support people of all orientations, beliefs, and choices.
This program is about being human. If you can align with that concept then we would love to have you!
Age
Whether your marriage was long or short does not matter. People often say before they start our program, "my life is over", (even people in their 30s).
As you get older your priorities change. It isn't about the kids or what you will do for a career. It is about finding your true worth. It is about learning "what your soul needs". This is a paradigm shift, to be truly, authentically happy - regardless of age.
Create Your Divorce Recovery Plan
Step 1: Take our free divorce adjustment self-test (button below).
Step 2: You will get an "emotional weather report" by email on how you are doing in 6 key areas of divorce adjustment.
Step 3: Stay tuned for further information by email on what your scores mean and what you can do to start feeling better fast.
Step 4: Sign up for a free consultation to review your scores (button below).
Step 5: Sign up for a Fisher Rebuilding Seminar(TM) on the Classes tab.
Step 6: Sign up for the divorce support group for support until the next seminar starts on
February 5, 2025 at 6:30 pm. Call (925) 787-8865 to sign up.
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Healing Through Divorce
Healing Through Divorce: Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster with Resilience
Divorce can be an emotional rollercoaster, with moments of shock, denial, anger, and sadness, to name just a few of the emotions one might experience. It's a tough journey, but you're not alone. Understanding the emotional stages of divorce and learning effective coping strategies can make this tumultuous ride smoother.
The Initial Shock and Denial: Riding the Emotional Rollercoaster
When divorce hits, it's like being struck by lightning. Shock and denial wash over you, making it hard to accept the end of your marriage. These feelings are entirely natural, and it's crucial to acknowledge them. Allow yourself to experience the disbelief, the anger, and the confusion. Journaling your thoughts can be a helpful technique, providing an outlet for your emotions.
Grieving the Loss: Embracing the Healing Process
Grieving is an integral part of divorce, similar to mourning the death of a loved one. You need to grieve not just the end of your marriage but also the dreams and plans you had for the future, including the likely loss of full-time access to your children. It's normal to feel anger and sadness; these emotions are stepping stones toward healing. Seeking therapy, joining a support group, or participating in a divorce recovery group can provide a nurturing environment to express your feelings and initiate the healing process.
Navigating Anger and Resentment: Channeling Emotions Positively
Anger and resentment are natural responses to divorce, particularly in cases of betrayal or unresolved issues. Acknowledging these emotions and learning to channel them constructively are crucial. Engaging in physical activities like jogging or yoga can help release pent-up anger.
Finding Forgiveness
Forgiving your ex-spouse is one of the most challenging tasks you'll face. It takes time, but once you release the anger, you'll feel lighter. Forgiveness liberates you from emotional baggage, allowing you to concentrate on rebuilding your life. If you're not ready to forgive, try wishing peace between you and your ex (or soon-to-be ex).
Finding Acceptance and Rebuilding Self-Esteem: Recognizing Your Worth
Acceptance is a pivotal moment in the emotional journey of divorce. It entails embracing the reality of your situation and understanding that your worth is not defined by your relationship status. Focus on self-compassion and self-care. Set boundaries, engage in positive self-talk, and indulge in activities that boost your self-esteem. Commit to a daily practice of esteeming yourself using positive affirmations.
Coping with Loneliness and Building a Support System: You're Not Alone
Divorce often brings profound loneliness. Building a robust support system is essential. Reach out to friends and family. Reconnect with old friends or engage in new hobbies and social activities. Remember, there are people who care about you and want to see you thrive. If you're still struggling, consider joining a support group or a divorce recovery group. Learn about the differences between the two in our companion article and stay informed about available support.
Embracing Support
Many individuals who have joined a divorce support group or attended a divorce recovery seminar describe it as a turning point. Sharing their experiences with others who understand what they're going through made them realize they weren't alone. The camaraderie and understanding are incredibly comforting.
In conclusion, understanding the emotional journey of divorce is crucial for healing and moving forward. Embrace your emotions, seek support, and prioritize self-care. Remember, it's okay to feel, and it's okay to seek help. With time, patience, and the right support, you can emerge from this challenging experience stronger, wiser, and ready to embrace the next chapter of your life.
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